feakbeak
Sep 24, 08:01 PM
There are multiple angles to the situation. He is 18 and even if he wasn't - he's still his own person and does make his own decisions. Still, you do have influence over his life since you pay the bills and provide for him. This doesn't give you the right to harass him but I think it is fair to set rules for what time you want him home and if he can sleep over somewhere else. I wouldn't push the "you can't have sex" thing because he's going to do what he wants, but if you do not approve tell him you don't approve of teenagers having sex for whatever your reasons you may have. Also explain that he can (and will) make his own decisions and that you will be respectful of that. He will have to be responsible for those choices. Encourage him to have safe sex and give the usual advice. I don't think you need to put the condoms in his hands though.
When I was 19, I was in college and my gf lived about four hours away, during the summer we'd visit each other for weekends and such and we had to stay at each other's parents' house out of necessity. Neither of our parents allowed us to sleep in the same room. We weren't having intercourse anyway, but we were intimate during these visits and if we had wanted to we would have had intercourse - where there's a will, there's a way! You can't stop that but I think it is fair to set the "rules of your home" and if he doens't follow them there are consequences: paying rent, pulling his share, etc. Many on this board find this to be unreasonable, but I don't - it's your home. I don't think you need to butt heads on this topic. If you talk about it like reasonable adults I'm sure you can come to a reasonable compromise that you're both comfortable with. Just be open-minded, honest and willing to concede on some points if he makes valid arguments. Talk to him without coming off as judgmental or controlling - it sounds like he is reaching out for your approval/guidance to some extent.
Don't make your love conditional, but your financial support and what you will tolerate in your home is conditional. My step-sister (22-years old) needed a place to stay when starting work after college and so she crashed with me. It was only for about two months. She didn't pay any rent and she was just sleeping on my couch. I told her I didn't want her having sex with guys in my livingroom. It's my home and I didn't want to walk in on that or hear it going on in my small condo - it would have been weird. She had guys over, caught them making out... fine. I didn't care what she did, she stayed over at guy's places which was fine by me. We both we're fine with our arrangement, probably because we talked it over like adults. I didn't want to control her life at all, I just didn't want MY home to feel uncomfortable for me. I guess that's a completely different situation, but it illustrates my point.
Don't try to stop the sex, becuase you can't. Don't be an ass about it becuase you'll only push him away. Tell him it is his choice to have sex but that since you don't approve of it and you provide for him that you're not going to set "house rules" that encourage it or make it easy. Do be open, honest and support him no matter what he chooses to do. This isn't something worth losing a very valuable relationship over.
When I was 19, I was in college and my gf lived about four hours away, during the summer we'd visit each other for weekends and such and we had to stay at each other's parents' house out of necessity. Neither of our parents allowed us to sleep in the same room. We weren't having intercourse anyway, but we were intimate during these visits and if we had wanted to we would have had intercourse - where there's a will, there's a way! You can't stop that but I think it is fair to set the "rules of your home" and if he doens't follow them there are consequences: paying rent, pulling his share, etc. Many on this board find this to be unreasonable, but I don't - it's your home. I don't think you need to butt heads on this topic. If you talk about it like reasonable adults I'm sure you can come to a reasonable compromise that you're both comfortable with. Just be open-minded, honest and willing to concede on some points if he makes valid arguments. Talk to him without coming off as judgmental or controlling - it sounds like he is reaching out for your approval/guidance to some extent.
Don't make your love conditional, but your financial support and what you will tolerate in your home is conditional. My step-sister (22-years old) needed a place to stay when starting work after college and so she crashed with me. It was only for about two months. She didn't pay any rent and she was just sleeping on my couch. I told her I didn't want her having sex with guys in my livingroom. It's my home and I didn't want to walk in on that or hear it going on in my small condo - it would have been weird. She had guys over, caught them making out... fine. I didn't care what she did, she stayed over at guy's places which was fine by me. We both we're fine with our arrangement, probably because we talked it over like adults. I didn't want to control her life at all, I just didn't want MY home to feel uncomfortable for me. I guess that's a completely different situation, but it illustrates my point.
Don't try to stop the sex, becuase you can't. Don't be an ass about it becuase you'll only push him away. Tell him it is his choice to have sex but that since you don't approve of it and you provide for him that you're not going to set "house rules" that encourage it or make it easy. Do be open, honest and support him no matter what he chooses to do. This isn't something worth losing a very valuable relationship over.
JackT06
Feb 21, 03:52 AM
Hello,
Does anyone know a way that i can make a gap in the border...
I want to create a 3px gap in top and bottom of the Right Nav Left Border line..
This is so that it won't touch the other borders.
How do i do that in CSS?
Does anyone know a way that i can make a gap in the border...
I want to create a 3px gap in top and bottom of the Right Nav Left Border line..
This is so that it won't touch the other borders.
How do i do that in CSS?
Snowy_River
Oct 31, 11:46 AM
Here is a re-write of the article for those wishing for more "clarity" :p :
While pre-orders of Apple's Second Generation iPod Shuffle, which has a capacity of one Gigabyte (1 Gigabyte = 1,000,000,000 bytes) have recently begun to ship to customers (those who buy things), Apple has announced the general availability of the music player in Apple Retail Stores and Authorized Retailers worldwide this Friday.
AppleInsider (another rumor site) has reported that while retailers (those who sell things) may get stock of the players prior to Friday, they will not be allowed to place them out for sale until Friday.
Oh, surely we can do better than that...
While pre-orders (requests for a product before the product is actually available) of Apple's (a computer company specializing in Macintosh brand computers) Second Generation iPod (a line of electronic portable music players sold by Apple) Shuffle (move things around so as to occupy different positions or to be in a different order)...
Okay, okay, I'll stop... ;)
While pre-orders of Apple's Second Generation iPod Shuffle, which has a capacity of one Gigabyte (1 Gigabyte = 1,000,000,000 bytes) have recently begun to ship to customers (those who buy things), Apple has announced the general availability of the music player in Apple Retail Stores and Authorized Retailers worldwide this Friday.
AppleInsider (another rumor site) has reported that while retailers (those who sell things) may get stock of the players prior to Friday, they will not be allowed to place them out for sale until Friday.
Oh, surely we can do better than that...
While pre-orders (requests for a product before the product is actually available) of Apple's (a computer company specializing in Macintosh brand computers) Second Generation iPod (a line of electronic portable music players sold by Apple) Shuffle (move things around so as to occupy different positions or to be in a different order)...
Okay, okay, I'll stop... ;)
Xavier
Sep 29, 10:28 AM
Maybe i'll send an email over to Peugeot and see what they are willing to tell me.
I will post back here for anyone else that is interested
I will post back here for anyone else that is interested
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marksman
Apr 4, 12:37 PM
I love all the 'worst carrier ever' comments. Do none of you realize VZW is already charging that much?
Of course not this is ignorant knee jerk city here. Most people don't even buy their phones like this, so this impacts a relatively small number of people. The people it probably impacts the most are those gaming the systems for the phones.
This is not some kind of change or charge that is going to impact the majority of AT&T customers in any way.
Of course some dummies will switch to Verizon and be in the exact same boat because they don't think nor do they educate themselves before they speak, write or act.
It is like cavemen, "More money charge bad... Ugga Bugga"
Of course not this is ignorant knee jerk city here. Most people don't even buy their phones like this, so this impacts a relatively small number of people. The people it probably impacts the most are those gaming the systems for the phones.
This is not some kind of change or charge that is going to impact the majority of AT&T customers in any way.
Of course some dummies will switch to Verizon and be in the exact same boat because they don't think nor do they educate themselves before they speak, write or act.
It is like cavemen, "More money charge bad... Ugga Bugga"
Iglio
Aug 15, 02:35 AM
I think I got the wallpaper from one of these threads.
That wallpaper is standard on mac's lol
That wallpaper is standard on mac's lol
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ChrisTX
Apr 25, 05:31 AM
Does "I have no desire for a smartphone" go under "already have other phone" or under "undecided/other"?
You are in the very vocal minority.
You are in the very vocal minority.
menziep
Mar 23, 02:26 PM
edit
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lgutie20
Apr 6, 12:13 PM
This is torture... I just wish Apple would send out invitations for another event and tell us themselves what it is that we will be seeing. Please, Apple?
SirStrumalot
Apr 6, 12:52 PM
I just got a 12PB HDD for my MBP... no biggie
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Praetorian�
Dec 11, 06:44 AM
classic :cool:
I just realized how much I love the Montreal Canadiens. :D Thanks for sharing.
I just realized how much I love the Montreal Canadiens. :D Thanks for sharing.
partyBoy
Oct 4, 10:35 PM
Did a little tweaking...
http://i233.photobucket.com/albums/ee187/colombian_pride69/Geektool%20themes/desktopp.png
http://i233.photobucket.com/albums/ee187/colombian_pride69/Geektool%20themes/desktopp.png
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pkson
Apr 28, 08:26 PM
This just gets better!
acslater017
Mar 25, 10:47 AM
I'm getting more and more curious how iOS 5 will turn out. I dunno if these enhancements will make it in time for summer, but I'm imagining centralized voice control for doing everyday tasks, a la Siri.
"Is it going to rain tonight?"
"How is traffic? Find another route"
"Book me a table for 2 at 7 tonight"
"What movies are showing tonight?"
These sorts of things should be accessible, and actionable, from the Voice Control interface. Apple did just add 20 new spoken languages to OS X :rolleyes: Perhaps it will be accessible as an API to third party developers. This would really change the way I use my phone, especially while on the road.
"Is it going to rain tonight?"
"How is traffic? Find another route"
"Book me a table for 2 at 7 tonight"
"What movies are showing tonight?"
These sorts of things should be accessible, and actionable, from the Voice Control interface. Apple did just add 20 new spoken languages to OS X :rolleyes: Perhaps it will be accessible as an API to third party developers. This would really change the way I use my phone, especially while on the road.
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Dalriada
Oct 1, 07:42 AM
Really great news... can't wait to run iNotes from home for office access rather than using that old webmail interface.... :D
JoeG4
Jan 11, 12:10 AM
I'm pulling this one a bit out of nowhere, but I've once heard that the whole thing with diesel not being popular in the US is a bit of a convenient balance, since you can split petroleum into gas and get diesel as a byproduct, so it's nice to have a balance.
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vincenz
Mar 16, 06:09 PM
I'm beginning to believe the term "sentient mammals" is more appropriately applied to dolphins than humans. At least the (R) kind.
Dolphins aid dog rescue (http://www.upi.com/Odd_News/2011/02/25/Dolphins-aid-dog-rescue/UPI-77461298624400/)
Dale
:d:d
Dolphins aid dog rescue (http://www.upi.com/Odd_News/2011/02/25/Dolphins-aid-dog-rescue/UPI-77461298624400/)
Dale
:d:d
DrGruv1
Aug 21, 04:54 PM
fixed!
http://www.musicrowsongs.com/drgruv.jpg
-mike
http://www.musicrowsongs.com/drgruv.jpg
-mike
chrismacguy
Apr 15, 11:53 AM
Oh Fart!!:mad:
I forgot that I only have 256Mb RAM so I can't load it up. The other Dimm flipped out and panicked.
So this could be the longest 10.5 instal ever :D
10.5 should still run, and even run 1-2 apps at a time. (I got 10.5 successfully, if incredibly slowly, running on a 700Mhz eMac G4 with just 128MB RAM, so its definitely possible).
I forgot that I only have 256Mb RAM so I can't load it up. The other Dimm flipped out and panicked.
So this could be the longest 10.5 instal ever :D
10.5 should still run, and even run 1-2 apps at a time. (I got 10.5 successfully, if incredibly slowly, running on a 700Mhz eMac G4 with just 128MB RAM, so its definitely possible).
louis Fashion
Mar 27, 01:05 PM
iPod Touch 5G with GPS and maps for europe, asia and north/south-america please!
;)
Ja, and a world phone.
;)
Ja, and a world phone.
LagunaSol
Mar 23, 12:08 PM
Now if this guy is not leaving to retire. Then RIP Apple.
Good grief, here comes the "Sky is falling!" crowd
Seriously, if Apple thinks I want my computer to resemble an overgrown iPad then they can loose my money and I'll be buying an Alienware.
Have fun with that.
Microsoft seem to be the only ones that still get computers?
Words are not sufficient to respond to this gem.
IMO you don't leave a massively successful company after 22 years without a reason unless your retiring.
Everyone likes to try new things. 22 years is a long time. Most of us would like to drop what we're doing and try something new. Unfortunately, unlike Bertrand, most of us don't have the money to do it.
Good grief, here comes the "Sky is falling!" crowd
Seriously, if Apple thinks I want my computer to resemble an overgrown iPad then they can loose my money and I'll be buying an Alienware.
Have fun with that.
Microsoft seem to be the only ones that still get computers?
Words are not sufficient to respond to this gem.
IMO you don't leave a massively successful company after 22 years without a reason unless your retiring.
Everyone likes to try new things. 22 years is a long time. Most of us would like to drop what we're doing and try something new. Unfortunately, unlike Bertrand, most of us don't have the money to do it.
Resist
Apr 26, 10:16 PM
The movie was nice, that app is an interesting concept.
geko29
Apr 7, 08:51 AM
w/ TRIM support I hope
This isn't solid state storage, so TRIM is not even in the picture.
The last quote I got for a 300GB SSD module for our SAN was $17,500 (after a 50% "discount" from list), about six months ago. So if we assume that the price has gone down a bit since then and Apple gets crazy volume discounts, let's assume they'd pay around $10k. Times 40,000 units, we'd be talking $400M just for the drives themselves, not counting the hot spares, enclosures, controllers, switches, licensing, and all the other ancillary stuff involved. We'd be somewhere between a half and three quarters of a billion dollars.
This isn't solid state storage, so TRIM is not even in the picture.
The last quote I got for a 300GB SSD module for our SAN was $17,500 (after a 50% "discount" from list), about six months ago. So if we assume that the price has gone down a bit since then and Apple gets crazy volume discounts, let's assume they'd pay around $10k. Times 40,000 units, we'd be talking $400M just for the drives themselves, not counting the hot spares, enclosures, controllers, switches, licensing, and all the other ancillary stuff involved. We'd be somewhere between a half and three quarters of a billion dollars.
RebootD
Mar 31, 02:07 PM
I will admit being a designer this would be a 'fun' distraction but it's like going from a sketchboard and pencil (mac + wacom tablet) to finger painting.
Nothing wrong with finger painting but for what I do the precision of the tablet isn't something I can give up.
Nothing wrong with finger painting but for what I do the precision of the tablet isn't something I can give up.
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